I recognize very much of what you have written about in this very good and reflective article Claudia. I have never been a to do list and writing lists for many things but I have always felt that I have been a « perfectionist», very organized person. I my job that was a « must». But I was never good enough no matter how well I did my job😔 I ended up ill and burned out. Living in the now, being present is how we are made to live. Its meant to be like that because our body and brain/ mind are not built for multitasking. Thank you for sharing, I am very glad you are on a good path💟🙏
Thank you so much, Tony! 💕 I'm so sorry to hear about your terrible experiences at work and the toll it took on your health. 😔 (I can very much relate.) I couldn’t agree more, we are not build for multitasking and living in the present feels so good and right, there must be a reason for that. 🥰
This really resonated. I've completely abandoned lists with deadlines attached, though, I do still keep a to do list at work - otherwise, I would forget things all the time.
Thank you for reading, Pernille, glad this resonated! I think it's a good idea to figure out individually what works for a person and for a situation, to find out what's in one's best interest. I can totally relate to keeping a to do list at work (so did I in a stressful job). Lists can be a good tool if they work FOR you and don't put you under pressure. :)
I'm on a similar path to you Claudia and I do believe that performance driven perfectionism (control) is a kind of survival adaptation; for instance, if I do everything perfectly and control everything, I'll be safe, but as you know it isn't true. I've had a sense of urgency in my body for over a week now for no reason that I can think of, but I'm just noticing it, slowing down and what's inside me will reveal itself in time. I'm so glad to hear you're being kind to yourself and enjoying creativity. Have a lovely day 💫🌼
Sounds very plausible, Karen, absolutely true for me!
It comes in spirals, doesn't it? We've talked about that before and it's also true for me. It's not much else one can do expect noticing it, slowing down and waiting what happens next. It's actually the very best thing (although not always easy, I still feel like running away from it sometimes). Hope you feel better soon!
Td-do lists work for some, and they need them to function. For others they create stress and the constant feeling of “not enough”. I loved learning from Gretchen Rubin the idea of Ta-daa lists to celebrate what’s done. And instead of bucket lists I like gratitude lists. For example, when I worked at school my summer goal was to sleep and read. Doable. Everything else was a bonus that created a beautiful gratitude list in the end of the summer.
Thanks for reading, Terje, and for sharing your thoughts! It's very subjective, of course, and everyone has to find a way that works for them. I like the expression "Ta-daa lists", nice turnaround. 😎🥳 Great to hear that gratitude lists work so well for you!! Gratitude is something I value highly myself and practice daily. My husband and I have some kind of daily ritual where we talk about the small and good things we are grateful for over a hot beverage. I also like to name them in my head just before falling asleep. 🥰
Wonderful and very reflective! I've never been a naturally organised person. I did try sticking to lists before, but as you say just found it too much pressure to stick to them. I did used to enjoy writing a list of things I'd achieved that day instead, but I don't feel the need to do that anymore. It's all a mindset isn't it. 🙏🙂✨️
I recognize very much of what you have written about in this very good and reflective article Claudia. I have never been a to do list and writing lists for many things but I have always felt that I have been a « perfectionist», very organized person. I my job that was a « must». But I was never good enough no matter how well I did my job😔 I ended up ill and burned out. Living in the now, being present is how we are made to live. Its meant to be like that because our body and brain/ mind are not built for multitasking. Thank you for sharing, I am very glad you are on a good path💟🙏
Thank you so much, Tony! 💕 I'm so sorry to hear about your terrible experiences at work and the toll it took on your health. 😔 (I can very much relate.) I couldn’t agree more, we are not build for multitasking and living in the present feels so good and right, there must be a reason for that. 🥰
This really resonated. I've completely abandoned lists with deadlines attached, though, I do still keep a to do list at work - otherwise, I would forget things all the time.
Thank you for reading, Pernille, glad this resonated! I think it's a good idea to figure out individually what works for a person and for a situation, to find out what's in one's best interest. I can totally relate to keeping a to do list at work (so did I in a stressful job). Lists can be a good tool if they work FOR you and don't put you under pressure. :)
I'm on a similar path to you Claudia and I do believe that performance driven perfectionism (control) is a kind of survival adaptation; for instance, if I do everything perfectly and control everything, I'll be safe, but as you know it isn't true. I've had a sense of urgency in my body for over a week now for no reason that I can think of, but I'm just noticing it, slowing down and what's inside me will reveal itself in time. I'm so glad to hear you're being kind to yourself and enjoying creativity. Have a lovely day 💫🌼
Sounds very plausible, Karen, absolutely true for me!
It comes in spirals, doesn't it? We've talked about that before and it's also true for me. It's not much else one can do expect noticing it, slowing down and waiting what happens next. It's actually the very best thing (although not always easy, I still feel like running away from it sometimes). Hope you feel better soon!
Thank you, Karen, have a lovely day, too! ☀️🌷
I often feel like running too! I've just restacked a really helpful newsletter about this process and although it takes daily practice, it does work 🙂
Thank you, I'll have a look. 🙂
Td-do lists work for some, and they need them to function. For others they create stress and the constant feeling of “not enough”. I loved learning from Gretchen Rubin the idea of Ta-daa lists to celebrate what’s done. And instead of bucket lists I like gratitude lists. For example, when I worked at school my summer goal was to sleep and read. Doable. Everything else was a bonus that created a beautiful gratitude list in the end of the summer.
Thanks for reading, Terje, and for sharing your thoughts! It's very subjective, of course, and everyone has to find a way that works for them. I like the expression "Ta-daa lists", nice turnaround. 😎🥳 Great to hear that gratitude lists work so well for you!! Gratitude is something I value highly myself and practice daily. My husband and I have some kind of daily ritual where we talk about the small and good things we are grateful for over a hot beverage. I also like to name them in my head just before falling asleep. 🥰
Wonderful and very reflective! I've never been a naturally organised person. I did try sticking to lists before, but as you say just found it too much pressure to stick to them. I did used to enjoy writing a list of things I'd achieved that day instead, but I don't feel the need to do that anymore. It's all a mindset isn't it. 🙏🙂✨️
Thank you ☺️ - and thanks for sharing your thoughts! I'm happy for you that you never felt the need to write or stick to lists. That's great!
Yes, I agree, it's all a mindset and it's so liberating to change it. 🙂